Shibari - feat. Alexander Gothard

Being tied up - shibari, kinbaku, rope bondage - seems like an odd thing to bring to the commune, right? But what does the practice teach us about power, pleasure, pain, kink, creepiness, and surrender - and what do all of those things look like in a perfect world? We spoke to rope aficionado and activist Alexander Gothard to find out more. 

From bunnies to prisoners of war, masts to meditation, Joe Jonas to unintelligible desire - we ask the question: should shibari be in the commune? And how do we get it there ethically?

Hosts: Luke & Lauren

Alexander (Radical Ruptures): https://open.spotify.com/show/1eR7179FRJyWtyABFF83mT?sik=7qTXLvM6R8uJwZ1AKIvNZQ

Patreon: ⁠http://patreon.com/WhatWeKeepontheCommune⁠

Email: ⁠⁠wwkocpod@gmail.com⁠⁠

Music: Jay Richardson

Artwork: Hayden Pegues

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